Chosen Family
How to Find Your People
It took us years to find our chosen family. Here's how to make it take you weeks: show up, open your door, and make the soup.
Carlos Martinez
Introverts
I'm an Introvert. Can I Still Do This?
I'm loud in my head and soft-spoken out loud, and I hosted 150 parties. Survival tricks for the people watching from the corner.
Our Story
It Was Her Idea
Or: How I Failed at Cloning and Found My People Instead.
Friendship
Are People Here Actually Friends, or Is It All About Sex?
I expected anonymity. I found my closest friends. Why honesty about something this personal skips the small talk.
Consent
How to Say No Without Being Rude (and How to Hear It)
In a good community, no isn't rude. It's normal. No means no is the floor. An enthusiastic yes is the goal.
Consent
When One of You Wants It More
The slower partner sets the pace. Not as a compromise. As the rule. Going along with it is not consent.
Marriage
Will This Ruin Our Marriage?
Yes, there are risks. About as many as taking a vacation together. What breaks couples, what makes them stronger, and a simple test.
Style
What to Wear (The Dress Code Is the Easy Part)
Read the invite, dress for the person you are tonight, and gentlemen: the cargo shorts stay home. Plus, why an outfit is never an invitation.
Communication
How to Bring It Up Without Scaring Your Partner
The goal of the first conversation isn't a yes. It's a second conversation. Start with curiosity, listen more, and hear the no.
Single Men
Why It's Harder for Single Men (and What the Good Ones Do Differently)
The bar is higher for single men, and for good reason. What the ones who are welcomed everywhere do differently.